The dark side of minimalism

I believe anything can have multiple sides/interpretations if you are willing to be open about it. Therefore I really wanted to share my story.

I started this whole minimalism journey about a year ago. I got rid of a ton of stuff. I was happy I could finally let go of things I no longer used or liked. That was an awesome feeling because I used to be a small hoarder. I went through every category: clothes, jewelry, stationary, memories etc. I felt proud of myself because I would no longer be so attached to the materialistic world.

Then things started to change a little bit. I became obsessed with decluttering and I was constantly thinking of what I should clean out next. After I would come home from work the first thing I would do was to declutter. Even thought I have taken out so much I still had the feeling that I could do more. I would see these videos on YouTube about owing x amount of stuff and being an extreme minimalist that made me feel guilty about what I owned. Afterwards I started to feel bad about having such a colorful wardrobe (I used to have almost everything in all the rainbow colors). I would see these beautiful capsule wardrobes pictures and everything was all white, grey, black and some nudes. I got the urge to have a similar wardrobe and thought it would be the perfect wardrobe. Man, I was so wrong.

Then things started to get a bit worse. Whenever I would buy something that I would really need or really like I would think so much before buying it that it would literally stress me out a lot and would give me the sensation of wasting my money. Going even deeper on the matter I started to believe that the only way in life is to be a minimalist. I judged people around me for not approaching this lifestyle. Truth be told I learned a lot by choosing this way and I am glad I didn’t end up on the spartanism side.

I actually started to discover myself, to gain confidence and to be able to take control over my life. I got engaged in different events that I would normally not go. I became more focused on my personal development and opened my eyes to the “real world”. I realized that is not about how many items you own but how you feel towards them. The minimalism market and aesthetic can make you invest more money in something you already have and this would defeat the true meaning of being a minimalist.

Surround yourself with things that you can use and you like. I have come to the conclusion that it is more important to not be attached towards the things you use/like rather than have a specific amount of stuff. Keep a balanced life and be more focused on experiences and opportunities that come along in your life. Concentrate on developing your relationships with others. There is no right or wrong. Everything can be a subject to interpretation. Just because someone chooses a different lifestyle than you then that doesn’t mean you are entitled to judge and to impose your beliefs. We are all unique in our own way and we should be more open minded regarding everything that is happening around us.

In the end things can always be replaceable and people can’t. Things don’t have feelings towards us so why then do we have feelings towards them? When you lose a person then that person will always have a place in your heart/mind because she or he made and impact at a certain time.

Whether you own 10 dresses or just one, 10 pairs of earrings or none it doesn’t mean that there is only one way. It can be many different ways. Find what suits you the best and don’t compare yourself with others. Think more about how your actions can affect the people around you and the environment. Everyone has a different journey.

Just be free and enjoy your life. Hope this helped some of you.

“Anything you cannot relinquish when it has outlived its usefulness possesses you, and in this materialistic age a great many of us are possessed by our possessions.” – Peace Pilgrim

Love, D.

 

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